Hello 2018!

 

Hey folks!

There have been lots of things happening with the Toolbox bois!

We moved to a new building!

We had our first discussion of 2018

 

We had a great turn-out! Destin and I encouraged folks to free-write for a few minutes, answering the prompt,

“If you really knew me, you would know…”

Folks had the opportunity to share what this writing practice brought up for them. We encouraged folks to write and reflect on the kinds of support they would need to support and sustain their 2018 efforts and goals. If you weren’t able to make it but would like to do any of the writing exercises, go for it!

hello 2018!

hello 2018!

Join us for our next Toolbox Discussion

Thursday, February 22nd

6:00pm – 7:30pm

APAIT

3055 Wilshire Blvd., Suite 300

Los Angeles, CA 90010

Accessibility Information:
– Stairs: There are no stairs to enter the front of the building. There are several elevators to get to the third floor.

– Restroom access: There are two restrooms on located on the third floor, near the elevators. One has three stalls and no urinals. There is a women’s restroom sign on the door. The other restroom has two stalls and two urinals. There is gender neutral restroom signage on the door. Both restrooms are unlocked.

– Parking: There is a parking garage. The entrance is located on Westmoreland Ave. If you plan to park in the parking garage, you must arrive before 7pm to be able to access it. APAIT does validate parking. If you arrive after 7pm, there is street parking. Please call or text Jaden Fields, (650) 646-8462, to come down to let you in. There are 3 underground levels in the parking garage, with an elevator that takes you to the lobby. There are 2 stairs and the option of a ramp from the parking garage elevator to the entrance of the lobby.

– The family room is carpeted and no windows open.

– To respect our people and community with multiple chemical/scent sensitivities (MCS), we request that people come scent free (not using scented products) OR, as much as possible. Please try to have/wear very low scent on. You are supporting others who may suffer from seizures, asthma attacks, migraines and multiple other nervous and respiratory health emergencies. to reveiw scent free products/accessibility check out:
http://www.brownstargirl.org/blog/fragrance-free-femme-of-colour-realness-draft-15

Feel free to message us on Facebook or email us

 

In Solidarity,

Jaden and Destin

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2016 Reflections and 2017 Visions!

Thanks for all of the memories in 2016!

Join us for our first discussion of the year! Let’s do some intentional visioning for 2017!

6:00 – 6:30: Mix and mingle
Conversation will start at 6:30 ūüôā

Accessibility Information
-15 minute walk from Westlake/MacArthur Park Station (Red and Purple Lines)
-Buslines include DASH Pico/Echo Park and Metro 28
-Ample metered parking and some free parking in surrounding neighborhood and garage is accessible as well
-Wheelchair accessible
-Elevator available
-Restrooms: Women’s, Men’s and Single Stall Gender Neutral
-Ample seating and standing room
-Scent free soap will be available and we ask that your bodies come scent free
-Windows cannot be opened, venue has climate controlled ventilation system, air filtration unknown
-Public address system used by all guests and hosts

Check out our website: toolboxtransla.wordpress.com

Reflections and this week’s topic!

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[description: a group of transmasculine bois smile for a selfie. they range in age, race and style. all of them are defiantly joyful]

Previously at Toolbox…. (hehe)

Joy and masculinity. What do happy men (masculine identified people) look like? As many of us navigate masculinity, it seems that the range of emotions men are allowed to express is limited. Anger is understandable, and even encouraged, though there are limitations for men of color. Ambition. Stoicism. Keep your voice low and loud. Not high-pitched. Don’t get excited, but if you do, it can only be around hypermasculine things: sports and sex.

But what about joy? What about elation? What about playfulness?

As folks who were assigned female at birth, many of us were told to smile more while we moved through the world being perceived (by other and/or ourselves) as women. Now, many of us have our smiles policed. Smiles makes us gay, which some of us may be, or a pervert. Because¬†#MasculinitySoFragile, right? So why can’t men/masculine folks express joy freely? Many of us expressed a certain pressure to conform to the hypermasculine expectations now placed on us to fit in. Or to pass more safely. To not have our identities questioned.

Many of us imagine a world where we don’t have to relinquish our expressions to be affirmed in our masculinity. So let’s be #joyfulbois! Let’s smile! Let’s giggle! Let’s bare our teeth in elation! Let’s liberate our emotions! We enjoy the idea of interrupting the narrative of masculinity. Let’s be #joyfulbois together!


This Thursday! We will be talking about pleasure. Pleasure! How do you experience it? How do you give it? Where do you experience it on your body? Join us if you can!

Jaden and Destin

Toolbox Sex Toy Reflection and Next Discussion

[image description: two photos of a group of fly bois. they range in race, expression, ability, and style. the photo on the left, the expressions are sexy. the photo on the right, the expressions are playful.]

CW: mentions of genitalia associated with being assigned female at birth.

Toys! Toys are a big part of sex for some us, but are we being safe? That was the framing for this talk.

This talk brought in new folks to Toolbox (thanks Buck!), which was extremely exciting. While the conversation started with folks sharing stories about their first sex toys, things ventured toward unpacking the misogyny in the manufacturing of toys. We talked about how most toys and lube aren’t made with vaginas in mind. Some lube is actually harmful for vaginas, so its important to pay attention to the ingredients (no parabens or glycerin/glycerol/glycol, since they can contribute to yeast infections and UTIs).

Buck, then showed us sample toys he’s gotten from conventions.

And of course, the Buck Off (which sounds fun and will be available this month)!

buck-off

[image description: a black sex toy for transmen. package says, “Perfect Fit Buck-Off Official Buck Angel FTM Stroker]

Resources

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[image description: a resource list of favorite toys and lube. it reads: sliquid lube (vegan and organic), lelo (purple vibrator), Perfect Fit Douche (The Director) – for anal play, bad dragon (furry-focused), buck-off ftm stroker]

As well as this Trans Guide to Safer Sex!

All in all, it was a great time! For more info about sexual health and sex, especially for gay transmen/masculine folks, check out: GRUNT (NSFW).


AND be sure to join us this week (Thursday, September 8th) for a discussion about masculinity and expressions of joy!

In solidarity,

 

Jaden and Destin

Thursday, August 25th! Toolbox Discussion: Sex Toys with Buck Angel

sex toy toolboxHey peeps! Time for another discussion!

This week’s topic:
Sex Toys! Do you use them? What do you use? Which ones are your favorite?

Trans icon, Buck Angel, will be joining us and giving us the inside scoop on his new toy, designed specifically for transmen, Buck-Off

If you can’t make it to the discussion, you can google hangout with us toolboxtransla@gmail.com.

Accessibility Information
-15 minute walk from Westlake/MacArthur Park Station (Red and Purple Lines)
-Buslines include DASH Pico/Echo Park and Metro 28
-Ample metered parking and some free parking in surrounding neighborhood and garage is accessible as well
-Wheelchair accessible
-Elevator available
-Restrooms: Women’s, Men’s and Single Stall Gender Neutral
-Ample seating and standing room
-Scent free soap will be available and we ask that your bodies come scent free
-Windows cannot be opened, venue has climate controlled ventilation system, air filtration unknown
-Public address system used by all guests and hosts